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Gestalt therapy is
a type of therapy used to deepen our
awareness of ourselves and our
feelings in a less intellectual manner
than the more traditional forms of
therapy. "Gestalt" means the
whole; it implies wholeness. In
any experience or interaction there
are feelings in the foreground and in
the background.
The idea in
Gestalt therapy is that all of us have
had to repress or supress aspects of
ourselves because they were not
accepted or supported. It is
these aspects of ourselves or our
feelings that end up in the background
and can become unfinished
business.
Gestalt therapy can
help shed light on unfinished business
by helping us to focus our awareness
on our feelings (or lack of feelings)
moment to moment. Once we
recognize our unfinished business,(
i.e. uncomfortable feelings, stuck
patterns of behavior, or ways in which
we perceive ourselves and others
that are based on our
experiences as opposed to reality), we
are better equipped to understand
ourselves and to choose whether we
want to make changes or not.

One
method utilized in Gestalt therapy is
the empty-chair technique. This
is a simple tool in self-exploration
and is clearly explained in an excerpt
taken from the Internet.
When you go see a
Gestalt therapist, the office will
usually have an extra chair--an empty
chair. This chair serves an
important function. The
therapist may ask you to imagine
holding a conversation with someone or
something imagined to be in the empty
chair. Thus, the "empty chair
technique" stimulates your thinking,
highlighting your emotions and
attitudes. For example, the
therapist may say, "Imagine your
father in this chair (about 3 feet
away), see him vividly, and, now, talk
to him about how you felt when he was
unfaithful to your mother".
There are innumerable other people,
objects (your car or wedding ring),
parts of your personality (critical
parent, natural child, introversion,
obsession with work), any or your
emotions, symptoms,(headaches,
fatigue), any aspect of a dream,
a stereotype (blacks, macho males,
independent women). and so on that you
can imagine in an empty chair.
The key is a long, detailed, emotional
interaction--a conversation. You
should shift back and forth between
chairs as you also speak for the
person-trait-object in the other
chair. This "conversation"
clarifies your feelings and reactions
to the other person and may
increase your understanding of
the other person.
If you imagine any
thing in the other chair that gives
you difficulty, e.g. a person
upsetting you, a hated assignment, a
goal that is hard to reach, a disliked
boss or authority, a temptation to do
something wrong, keep in mind that
this person or desire is really a part
of you right now--it is your fantasy,
your thoughts. You may disown
it, even dislike it, and think of it
as foreign to you, like a "mean old
man", "the messed up system", "Bill,
the self-centered jerk", " a desire to
run away", "the boring stupid book I
have to read", etc., but obviously the
things said and felt by you in both
chairs are parts of you here and
now. Your images, memories,
emotions, judgments, expectations
about the other person or thing are
yours! You have created this
image that upsets you (although it is
probably based on some external
reality). And this conflict
exists inside you; it's of your own
making; it's yours to deal
with.
As long as you
believe, however, that the trouble
lies with someone or something
else--your family, the stupid school,
society, "men"/"women", not having
enough money, your awful job--you will
do very little to change. You
just complain and feel
frustrated. Someone else is seen
as responsible for solving your
problem. As Fritz Perls would say,
"That's crap! Assume responsibility
for your own difficulties, own them,
explore them--all sides, feel them to
the fullest, then make choices and
find your way out of your own
messes".
The Gestaltists
(Stevens, 1973) point out that we are
usually identified with only one side
of an internal conflict. If we can get
in touch with both sides--own both
views--the difficulty can be resolved
without force, the solution just
unfolds naturally. Some examples
may help: As mentioned before, in
self-improvement what you want to be
often conflicts with what you
are. Forcing yourself to improve
involves becoming preoccupied with
changing and /or with failing.
You are unable to fully experience and
accept what you are here and
now. If, instead, you were able
to experience all of your feeling and
conflicting wants, then reasonable
choices will supposedly be made to
meet your needs without "force'.
"willpower". or "determination".
I doubt that awareness always results
in effortless resolution for conflicts
and growth, as Gestalts therapists
claim, but certainly it is more
helpful to be aware than
ignorant.
Another common
conflict frequently emerges if you
imagine yourself in the empty chair
and try to describe yourself.
Try it-- Notice if your description
became critical. Gestaltists
refer to a part of our personality
called our "top dog" and another
called our "under dog". The top
dog is critical, demanding,
controlling, pushing for change; the
under dog feels whipped, pushed
around, weak, resentful, tense and
undermines top dog by playing
helpless," I can't do that. Can you
help me?" It is important to know both
parts well. You are responsible for
both. Their differences can be
worked out; both are trying to help
you.
Few Gestalt methods
have been evaluated but a small recent
study suggested that the empty chair
technique is effective (Paivio &
Greenberg, 1995). We need
hundreds of more studies of specific
self-help or therapeutic
methods.
From
http://MENTALHELP.net/psyhelp
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